And Your Destiny Is...

Does anyone believe in fate, or destiny?  The idea that things happen because they are in a fixed order?  That events are mapped out by the stars or God or a god of some description?

This is a hard question for me to give an answer to.  I believe that we can control our fate.  That's probably the best way to describe it. That there is a pathway that we are following, but it has many forks and we choose which fork to go down.  I don't believe in coincidences. All things happen for a reason. As the saying goes, "If it's meant to be, then it is meant to be".

I've heard that a lot recently, especially from my mother, but it rings true. Things won't happen if they aren't meant to happen.  Even an 'accident' is meant to happen, like if you spill your drink. Next time, you'll know that you should listen to your dad when he tells you not to put the drink on the floor so that, when you stand up, you kick it over.  Life is full of all these tests, and lessons.

As I have said, I don't believe in coincidences.  If things keep happening to you, then there must be a reason, and there are two things you can do about it. Either you act up so that this thing becomes a regular thing in life, to embrace it as being something that needs to happen, or you try and stop this from happening... but it is not for me to tell you which to do. It depends on the situation and whatever or whoever is involved.  I could give a simplistic example...

Say you are a footballer, but you struggle to run fast with the ball. You have two choices. Either you work on that and try to be able to run faster, or you work on other aspects of the game, like passing, so that you don't need to run with the ball.  The first part is really looking at the situation and adapting to it, the other is looking at the situation and adapting away from it.

It's not always easy to which was is best, I know that from personal experience. And sometimes you feel as if you don't control your life, that the odds are staked against and the path of life is overgrown and faded, but it really isn't. I would recommend that everyone goes and researches the poem 'Footprints' by Mary Stevenson, it sort of explains what I'm talking about but in a better way (and it's a poem and poems are great).

Oh...and one more thing. If you're reading this, then obviously fate has brought you here so you really should embrace it.

Stay Strong
Michael